Six Great Ways to Vent Your Frustration..

We all have ups and downs to life. How do you deal with the downs? Do you numb yourself and avoid them? Or do you find the hidden gift held within them?

Each time a painful emotion is felt, it provides an opportunity. Pain gives us the gift of growth in a hidden package. Something is shouting out for a change. If we pause and open this gift, a great secret of freedom and love can be revealed. Sometimes when the pain is large enough, we have no choice but to look at it anyway. My largest pains have helped to open the greatest growths in my life. Hey, it’s worth a shot, right?

Finding a healthy way to vent can even help to relieve anxiety, something more and more of us are suffering from in these times. Those who don’t find a healthy way of venting often stuff it inside until they explode one day or get into the habit of finding ways to numb themselves, such as eating. Venting can help to truly relieve stress, which is known to cause many ailments and “dis-eases” in our bodies.

Before true clarity can be reached on why something is happening, it is best to free up the strong energy that arises from the frustration of the situation. Once that energy has been expressed, you can rest in the stillness, while still connected to the power of emotion, to reach the greatest levels of clarity possible. It is here where our insight is at a natural high. With the power of the openness we have after pain, our greatest growth can happen. We can release the ties to these situations and grow beyond them.

Here are some ways to vent out the frustrations, sadness, and anger that arise as a normal part of growing and a healthy life:

1. Cry. When you feel deeply sad, crying works beautifully. Often when we cry, we want a shoulder to cry on. If none is available, cry to yourself and receive it with love. Either way, allowing yourself the space to cry can work wonders on freeing up the stored up energy inside that is too much to contain within. While crying connect with the pain you feel and cry into it.
2. Punch. If you feel very angry, you may feel the desire to hit something. A very healthy way of exerting this powerful energy is to punch a pillow. Hit the pillow like it’s the person/thing you are angry at. Yell and cuss at it as well if that helps to release that tension. Cuss words are great at opening up that stored up energy and getting to the root of your emotions. As you hit, smash into that frustration and feel exactly what aspects of it are making you angry.
3. Write. Writing can help to clear the overwhelm of information in your head. It allows a pouring out of what is going on inside. Once you’ve written all you can, some things will still stand out or certain feelings may still be felt strongly. These are the largest lessons in the situation. Writing provides a great clarity that other ways may not give. You can easily reflect on what you were feeling in the situation once the emotion has passed in an effort to keep the lesson fresh in your mind and heart. Some people enjoy tearing up the pages after they’ve written as a way to exert their frustration. Molly Cook suggests capturing the emotions and negative energy in the paper, for your eyes only, as a private way to vent. Laurel Sutton recommends online communities such as Asshat! They allow a platform for transforming your frustration into an amusing rant and provide the opportunity for anonymous feedback, if desired.
4. Exercise. Some of your most frustrating days in your life may turn out to be your best days in the gym. As Jen Olewinski so beautifully puts it, “Plus, getting in shape can’t be that bad right?” Running, boxing and walking all allow great ways to vent. Many spiritual people find their way into their deepest connections through opening the door to regular exercise. Exerting energy in this way, with a regular commitment to their health, opens them like nothing else.
5. Talk. One woman told me the story of a nurse who rode the bus every day. She found a way to stay remarkably young-looking by letting go of anger immediately. She did not direct it at her family or others. Instead, she got on the bus and waited for a passenger to sit near. She’d ask if they minded listening to her and if not, she’d share her dilemma. Once she’d talked it out, she’d thank them and get off the bus. Often times, we can learn so much just by hearing ourselves speak and we don’t need much feedback at all. If you have a trusted confident or teacher, even better.
6. Create Art. What better to do than to channel this energy into creating something beautiful? Pablo Solomon is an artist who bangs a hung of stone with a hammer and chisel to release his tension. He used the frustration of 9/11 to make it one of his most productive times ever.

So how do you vent? Please share. You may help someone else who will connect with what you do…

meet the 2nd Malaysian astronomer...weee!!

first thing first..sorry because i can't avoid the technical problem of this picture..having problem with rotating this picture..huhu..but never mind..i'm sure you all can recognize me and most important the person next to me..hehe..
to mr. azizuddin, don't be jealous my dear..hehe..
well excitedly this afternoon, i met our second astronomer , Dr. Faiz Khaleed..live at UMP.. i was so excited to see him as before this i just saw him at tv or in the newspaper.. hehe..

this is some review about Dr. Faiz Khaleed that got from internet search..

Faiz bin Khaleed (born September 15, 1980 in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia) is a Malaysian military dentist with the Royal Malaysian Armed Force. In September 2006, he was selected as one of two final candidates to undergo astronaut training in Star City as part of the Angkasawan program. The other candidate was Sheikh Muszaphar Shukor.

Dr Faiz received his early education in St. John's Institution, Kuala Lumpur.

In 2007, Sheikh Muszaphar was selected to fly to the International Space Station with Expedition 16 onboard the Soyuz TMA-11 in October 2007.^[1]

Faiz bin Khaleed still might go to space in 2008 or 2009 if Malaysia decides to proceed with a second space flight, which at the moment being very likely.^[2] There is also talk of him undergoing training under NASA in the United States.

On 22 October 2007, Dr Faiz was promoted to a Major in the Royal Malaysian Armed Forces.

to Major Dr. Faiz, i wish you all the best for everything! chaiyo2!! ;-)

9 Tips in Life That Lead to Happiness..=)

hi guys!..
last two weeks was my busy and stress weeks..huhu..how about you?i'm sure you all feel the same thing..right?
hhmmm... but,even in the busy and stress mode i'm still can see the happy face of my members..but are you truly happy?Do you even know what it means to be happy and what it takes to achieve happiness? These are important questions for anyone who is seeking happiness to ask themselves. I live my life to maintain my own happiness while trying my best to not cause unhappiness to anyone else. If you want to be happy you need to understand that you can be happy and that you should be happy. Many people make the mistake of believing that they don’t deserve happiness and accept their unhappy state as their destiny. The truth of the matter is that happiness, like anything else in life, needs to be nurtured. The following are a few tips that I follow to create happiness in my life...

1. Understand what it is that will make you happy. Everyone has unique requirements for attaining happiness and what makes one person happy may be very different from what makes someone else happy. Revel in your individuality and do not worry about whether or not your desires are comparable to those of your peers.
2. Make a plan for attaining goals that you believe will make you happy. Your mood will very likely increase as your pursue your goal because you will feel better about yourself for going after something you value.
3. Surround yourself with happy people. It is easy to begin to think negatively when you are surrounded by people who think that way. Conversely, if you are around people who are happy their emotional state will be infectious.
4. When something goes wrong try to figure out a solution instead of wallowing in self pity. Truly happy people don’t allow set backs to affect their mood because they know that with a little thought they can turn the circumstances back to their favor.
5. Spend a few minutes each day thinking about the things that make you happy. These few minutes will give you the opportunity to focus on the positive things in your life and will lead you to continued happiness.
6. It’s also important to take some time each day to do something nice for yourself. Whether you treat yourself to lunch, take a long, relaxing bath or simply spend a few extra minutes on your appearance you will be subconsciously putting yourself in a better mood.
7. Finding the humor in situations can also lead to happiness. While there are times that require you to be serious, when it is appropriate, find a way to make light of a situation that would otherwise make you unhappy.
8. Maintaining your health is another way to achieve happiness. Being overweight or not eating nutritious foods can have a negative effect on your mood. Additionally, exercise has been known to release endorphins that give you a feeling of happiness.
9. Finally, it is important to understand that you deserve happiness. Those who believe that they are not worthy of happiness may subconsciously sabotage their efforts to achieve happiness. If necessary, tell yourself each day that you deserve to be happy and remind yourself what steps you will take to achieve the happiness you desire.

Happiness is hard to define but most people are aware of whether they are happy or not. Many people believe that happiness is a form of luck and that some people are destined to be happy while others are destined to be unhappy. I try to incorporate the tips above into my life and have had great success in achieving happiness. The tips in this article are small but meaningful steps that you can take each day to lead you to true happiness.

i'm sorry..

this is about my post ''what's in store when najib become PM..?''
firstly i want to apologists of any statement that i've made...that was only my personal opinion and the opinions expressed here represent my own and is not intended to malign any religion, ethnic group, institution, political organization, or individual.
huhu..

10 thing you didn't know about... KARAM SINGH WALIA

Environment journalist Karam Singh Walia tells RACHAEL PHILIP why he ends all his reports with a peribahasa.

IF Michael Chong is seen as a saviour of sorts to battered wives and loan shark victims, then journalist Karam Singh Walia is nature's knight.

Known to have made cabinet ministers squirm in their seats with his intense grilling on environmental issues, 46-year-old Karam is often seen on TV3’s Buletin Utama atop a hill, down a drain or in a back alley of some dubious factory in full gear – vest, gloves, hard hat, boots and a see-through plastic bottle for an instant albeit elementary water clarity test.

Besides the eccentric hand gesture punctuating every sentence, this dedicated journalist ends every news report with a suitable peribahasa or bidalan (Malay expression).

1 Is he single-handedly trying to popularise Malay adages and proverbs? “No, it is a way to catch people’s attention. Sometimes I use bahasa kiasan (decorative language) as a way to make a point without hurting people’s feelings. That’s Malay culture actually. Some people take the trouble to e-mail or SMS me if they do not understand the saying. I, of course, oblige them. It goes to show that people are curious. Most of us don’t use or even hear these expressions once we leave school.”

2 He carries a photocopy of a book listing some 4,300 Malay sayings with him everywhere he goes. He found this copy by chance, when his neighbour’s dustbin was knocked over by a stray hockey ball. The book never meant much to him until some 10 years later when he joined TV3. “Recently, a local publishing company sent me two of their newly-launched books, one entitled Kamus Peribahasa Kontemporari, the other on pantun and gurindam. It’s smaller and easier to carry around but I still prefer the old book.”

3 His favourite saying is “Terbakar kampung nampak asap, terbakar hati siapa yang tahu”. “Our former prime minister used it as a warning to grassroots leaders. He advised them to go down and serve the people, they may be smiling and all but you can never know their true feelings or how they would vote, for that matter.” Tun Dr Mahathir Mohammad, apparently mentioned “wartawan Singh dari TV3” during that speech.

4 Prior to being a TV news journalist, Karam was a secondary school teacher. His first degree from Universiti Pertanian Malaysia (UPM) is in teaching English as a second language. Besides English, he also taught physical education. Subsequently he gained a master’s in TV journalism from the University of London.

5 Until 10 years ago, Karam rode a motorcycle to work. It was the only mode of transportation for his family of five. Often he had to make two trips to transport his family, sometimes ferrying two children at a time – one behind him, one in the front basket. His reason? “Getting my house paid for in full was my first priority.”

6 Being a good hockey player, Karam volunteered to coach hockey to schoolchildren during his four years at (UPM). He went to the nearest school in Serdang and asked the headmaster if he could train the boys. “Within a year, we had a championship team. And we won the national championship three years in a row.” From this team of humble beginnings, six national players were born, including Maninderjit Singh, Abdul Rahman, Saiful and Madzlee.

7 These days Karam’s hockey stick hardly sees the light of day. He is too busy with work. A passionate environmentalist, he pursues every case of environment degradation with such zeal; receiving threats and even risking his life is a norm. He recalls being chased by parang-wielding illegal farmers from Cameron Highlands once. “Some even offered me cars and RM150,000 in cash to buy me off. I have never seen so much money in my life. It shakes you to your foundation, your belief in what’s right.” The temptation was strong but Karam knew he would never be able to look his children in the eye if he gave in.

8 His most embarrassing situation while on air turned out to be a personal ‘expose’. His pants tore at the back while he was climbing up a steep slope to get a bird’s eye view of illegal logging activities. Luckily the cameraman at that time was the only witness, so Karam was “safe”.

9 If there is one thing he absolutely cannot tolerate, it is litterbugs. “Once, a man threw a soft drink can out of his car window. I chased him and made him turn around to pick up his rubbish.” Karam and his family also avoid carrying plastic carrier bags as much as they can.

10 On a larger scale, he has a bone to pick with some government departments and state governments. He wishes that they would be more transparent and accountable when planning development, especially in sensitive areas. “This really angers me – people with a string of degrees and titles to their names but when planning for development, they do not look at the bigger picture, on a macro level.” What would he do, if he were in their seats?

“If I were the Environment Minister, some people would have hell to pay. I am not saying that I will stop all development projects. I will instead encourage responsible development and environmental governance. We have all the necessary laws but what’s sad is the attitude of the people entrusted to enforce them. Look at yourself in the mirror, “tepuk dada tanya selera”.

What's in store when Najib become PM....??

Datuk Johan Jaafar, the ex-editor-in-chief of Utusan Malaysia who was once identified as being close to former deputy prime minister Datuk Seri Anwar Ibrahim, has been designated as the new media czar for the in-coming administration of Datuk Seri Najib Razak.

The Malaysian Insider understands that Johan will be appointed a director of The New Straits Times Press Berhad (NSTP) and chairman of Media Prima Berhad. Johan is expected to be appointed an executive director in NSTP, the publisher of the New Straits Times, Berita Harian and Harian Metro.

He will take over from Datuk Abdul Mutalib Mohamed Razak as chairman of Media Prima, which operates all of Malaysia’s private terresterial television stations – TV3, 8TV, TV9 and NTV7 – as well as two radio stations – Hot FM and Fly FM. The group also owns outdoor advertising giants Big Tree and UPD.

Johan is expected to set the tone for the Najib administration at NSTP and Media Prima.Johan’s appointments mark the first time a former head of Utusan Malaysia, which is owned by Umno, has been tapped to helm NSTP and Media Prima.Johan is also a well-known figure in the local Malay literary and cultural scene.

In 2004, when Datuk Seri Abdullah Ahmad Badawi took over the helm from Tun Mahathir, there emerged a new group of elite businessmen. The most visible of them were Equine Capital Bhd's Datuk Patrick Lim, ECM Libra Group's Datuk seri Kalimullah Hassan and Scomi Group's Datuk Kamaluddin Abdullah (also PM's son). Scomi (7158), who IPO at RM 1.38 in year 2003, saw the share price rocketed to all time high of RM 2after 1-10 split.

The Prime Minister in waiting, after taking over the role of Finance Minister in mid-September, had organised a corporate roundtable session. 6 individuals, each with deep knowledge of his field, were personally chose by Najib. They were tapped for ideas on how to address issues ranging from the economy, capital markets and business in general.

The 6 were............

1. Tan Sri Azman Mokhtar, MD of Khazanah Nasional Bhd.
2. Tan Sri Md Nor Yusof, director and chairman of Khazanah's executive committee
3. Datuk Mohd Nadzmi Mohd Salleh, chairman and MD of express bus operator, Konsortium Transnational Bhd.
4. Datuk Shahril Shamsuddin, Sapura group
5. Datuk Mohamed Azman Yahya, director of Khazanah, and founder and group chieft executive of Symphony House Bhd.
6. Dr Gan Wee Beng, the executive director of CIMB group. He was a consultant to Bank Negara, the Economic Planning Unit, finance ministry and the World Bank.

Names linked to Najib........

- Tan Sri Tan Kay Hock, Johan Holdings Bhd Chairman and Chief executive, golf buddy
- Tan Sri Robert Kuok & family, Tun Abdul Razak & Tun Hussein Onn were good friends of Tan Sri Robert Kuok.
- Datuk Shahril & family, Sapura group
- Tan Sri Syed Mokhtar Albukhary, MMC group, DRB-HICOM has a huge vehicle assembly plant and is one of the largest employers in Pekan, Pahang, Najib's mainstay political base.
- Rohana Mahmood, chairman and partner of Ethos Capital, a RM 200mil private equity firm. Rohana and Omar Mustapha Ong, a former special assistant to Najib, are co-founders of the boutique advisory firm Ethos & Co. Rohana sits on the boards of Paramount Corp Bhd, TH Group Bhd, and Dijaya Bhd.

Razak Brothers..........

- Datuk Johari Razak, senior partner at Shern Delamore & Co. a large firm in KL. He is also a non executive director in several publicly listed companies including, being chairman of Ancom Bhd, deputy chairman of related Nylex (M) Bhd, and directorships in Hong Leong Industries Bhd and Daiman Development Berhad. He is also a director of Deutsche Bank (M) Bhd.

- Datuk Mohamed Nizam Razak, non executive director in several publicly listed companies including Hiap Teck Venture Bhd, Mamee Double Decker Bhd, Delloyd Ventures Bhd, and Yeo Hiap Seng Bhd. He is also a director of Deutsche Bank Bhd.- Datuk Mohamed Nazim Razak, an architect.

- Datuk Nazir Razak, CIMB group CEO

So what's then............

Come March, DPM Datuk Seri Najib Razak will take over from Datuk Seri Abdullah Badawi as Malaysia's sixth Prime Minister.

1. What change will bring along with him? How will the leadership affect business?

2. CIMB, GLC, Symphony House Bhd, Johan Holdings Bhd, Sapura group, Hong Leong group, Paramount Corp Bhd, TH Group Bhd, Dijaya Bhd, MMC group, DRB-HICOM, Hiap Teck Venture Bhd, Mamee Double Decker Bhd, Delloyd Ventures Bhd, Yeo Hiap Seng Bhd, Nylex Bhd, Hong Leong Industries Bhd, Daiman Development Berhad. These are the names that has connections with him, will they benefit from the change? Which family will arise from the change?

3. Razak brothers has been involving in banking, will they have the upper hand in the bank mergers? Obviously, there are conflict of interest between PM in waiting/Finance minister with CIMB CEO, how are they going to resolve this conflict?

4. Kuok's Hong Leong bank will have upper hand in bank merger? (Rumour on merger of Hong Leong and Public bank)

5. Will Second Finance Minister, Tan Sri Mohamed Nor Yakop stay on?n

6. Will Khairy Jamaluddin and his 4th floor goons be around?

source: malaysia insider & an anonymous email

its all in the family...........

Read here, here, here and here.

cheers.

baby found dumped in school

The teenage mother of a newborn baby girl found abandoned in a school playing field was helping police piece together what happened today.

She contacted officers last night following their appeal to trace her and has been given medical attention.

The baby was a few hours old when she was found yesterday afternoon in a school field in Kempston, Bedford.

She was unclothed apart from the pink blanket wrapped around her, and also partially covered by twigs and leaves.

A Bedford Police spokeswoman said last night: 'The mother has been found. She has come forward today and made herself known to the police.


'She is a teenage girl who does live locally to where the baby was found.'

The baby was discovered at 1.30pm by a boy and a girl, both 16, on a playing field at Daubeney Middle School in Bedford.

The teenagers picked her up and took her to hospital, where nurses warmed her up and saved her life.

Police took her to Bedford Hospital South Wing where nurses named her Chloe.

They said she had not spent long out in the cold.

The baby remains in the care of the hospital.

The two teenagers who found the child, along with an older boy who drove them to the hospital, were praised for their 'quick and speedy efforts'.

A police spokesman said: ‘The teenagers opened up the blanket and saw the tiny baby and realised that she was very, very vulnerable.

'They were sensible and realised they needed to get the baby to somewhere
where experts could help her, very quickly.

‘We think the baby could not have been dumped under the bush for longer than half an hour, which is very fortunate.’

this incident happened in one of school at overseas..
hmmm...
what do you guys think about this news?
is it the phenomena was the same at our place?